Comments on: Deployment Seasons http://www.wivesoffaith.org/deployment-seasons Connecting, Encouraging and Supporting Christian Military Wives Thu, 19 Jan 2012 12:36:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jolene http://www.wivesoffaith.org/deployment-seasons/comment-page-1#comment-2861 Jolene Sun, 16 May 2010 18:03:00 +0000 http://www.wivesoffaith.org/?p=1847#comment-2861 Mindy, What you're feeling is okay. It's okay to cry. It's okay to have rough days. I had days where I cried, and days that seemed "normal" during our year long deployment. Phone was a luxary for us, too. My husband could get my emails, but his emails back would be the short, "I love you and miss you" kind, too. They were short because he had so many emails to get through and NEVER enough time to respond. He was limited to 15 or 30 minutes depending on how long the line was. I know it meant a lot to him that I sent him the long, often rambling, emails. Maybe that would help your husband too? I am praying for you. I ask that our Great and Might God would give you strength and energy to get through the day. I ask that He comfort you when you feel alone. I ask that He watch over you and all the children that are in your care, and your husband far away. I ask that God grants you and your husband the ability to communicate more often - specifically for internet and phone service. I pray that you turn to God for all of your needs - big and small. Our God is a Big God. Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." God is with you. He will never leave you. He knows how this is going to end and I know that He will walk with you every step of the way. Hang in there. If you need anything, please feel free to email me at jmhoefs@hotmail.com - I would be happy to pray for whatever needs you might have or just be a safe place for you to vent. Or just let you know that you are not alone. My heart goes out to you. Jolene Mindy,

What you're feeling is okay. It's okay to cry. It's okay to have rough days. I had days where I cried, and days that seemed "normal" during our year long deployment. Phone was a luxary for us, too. My husband could get my emails, but his emails back would be the short, "I love you and miss you" kind, too. They were short because he had so many emails to get through and NEVER enough time to respond. He was limited to 15 or 30 minutes depending on how long the line was. I know it meant a lot to him that I sent him the long, often rambling, emails. Maybe that would help your husband too?

I am praying for you. I ask that our Great and Might God would give you strength and energy to get through the day. I ask that He comfort you when you feel alone. I ask that He watch over you and all the children that are in your care, and your husband far away. I ask that God grants you and your husband the ability to communicate more often – specifically for internet and phone service. I pray that you turn to God for all of your needs – big and small. Our God is a Big God. Jeremiah 29:11 says, "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." God is with you. He will never leave you. He knows how this is going to end and I know that He will walk with you every step of the way.

Hang in there. If you need anything, please feel free to email me at jmhoefs@hotmail.com – I would be happy to pray for whatever needs you might have or just be a safe place for you to vent. Or just let you know that you are not alone.

My heart goes out to you.

Jolene

]]> By: Mindy http://www.wivesoffaith.org/deployment-seasons/comment-page-1#comment-2855 Mindy Sun, 16 May 2010 14:50:25 +0000 http://www.wivesoffaith.org/?p=1847#comment-2855 This is our 3rd deployment, his 5th. He's been gone approximately 3 months with about 9 months left to go. I think this is the worse one so far. The first one I didn't know what to expect and I had a 3 month old baby to keep me busy. The last one I was pregnant and had a baby so that kept me excited and extremely busy. This time around I have three children of my own and my niece. I have no time for myself, my husband hardly ever calls, e-mails or can even get internet access. I get maybe one phone call every week to two weeks for 2-5 minutes at a time. I get the occasional e-mail every week to two weeks that says the same thing everytime, "I love you and I miss you.". I don't know what stage I'm in right now. I really miss him, I cry a lot still but then other days I'm fine and taking care of what has to be done. This is our 3rd deployment, his 5th. He's been gone approximately 3 months with about 9 months left to go. I think this is the worse one so far. The first one I didn't know what to expect and I had a 3 month old baby to keep me busy. The last one I was pregnant and had a baby so that kept me excited and extremely busy. This time around I have three children of my own and my niece. I have no time for myself, my husband hardly ever calls, e-mails or can even get internet access. I get maybe one phone call every week to two weeks for 2-5 minutes at a time. I get the occasional e-mail every week to two weeks that says the same thing everytime, "I love you and I miss you.". I don't know what stage I'm in right now. I really miss him, I cry a lot still but then other days I'm fine and taking care of what has to be done.

]]> By: Jolene http://www.wivesoffaith.org/deployment-seasons/comment-page-1#comment-2248 Jolene Sat, 27 Mar 2010 09:06:51 +0000 http://www.wivesoffaith.org/?p=1847#comment-2248 Kristin, I just said a prayer for you. I understand where you have been. In my post above, I can tell you that I was a mess when I wrote it two months ago, but my husband landed in our state just yesterday, and just as he said, I can smile about it now. I'm not laughing quite yet, though! God had a lot to teach me (and my husband) during this year, and I believe that He is teaching you, too. Ask Him to show you what He is trying to teach you. I learned to really appreciate my husband I learned to appreciate the little things like being able to pick up the phone and call him, not have to wait forever for him to call me or for him to have 30 minutes on yahoo (no skype available where he was at). I learned that there are people who want to be there for you, and that by taking your husband away, it may allow you to develop deep, meaningful relationships with a friend or two. I learned to depend on God and only God. He will never let you down. He will NEVER give you more than you can handle (1 Cor. 10:13). You can have confidence in that. My heart breaks for you because I know where you are at, I have been there. I have confidence that that you will make it through. The military life is not for everyone, but God placed you here. And I promise that God will never leave your side during this season in your life. Take it one day at a time, you're almost halfway there! You are not alone - this web site is an incredible resource. Cling to God and his promises to you. Kristin, I just said a prayer for you. I understand where you have been. In my post above, I can tell you that I was a mess when I wrote it two months ago, but my husband landed in our state just yesterday, and just as he said, I can smile about it now. I'm not laughing quite yet, though!

God had a lot to teach me (and my husband) during this year, and I believe that He is teaching you, too.

Ask Him to show you what He is trying to teach you. I learned to really appreciate my husband I learned to appreciate the little things like being able to pick up the phone and call him, not have to wait forever for him to call me or for him to have 30 minutes on yahoo (no skype available where he was at). I learned that there are people who want to be there for you, and that by taking your husband away, it may allow you to develop deep, meaningful relationships with a friend or two. I learned to depend on God and only God. He will never let you down. He will NEVER give you more than you can handle (1 Cor. 10:13). You can have confidence in that.

My heart breaks for you because I know where you are at, I have been there. I have confidence that that you will make it through. The military life is not for everyone, but God placed you here. And I promise that God will never leave your side during this season in your life. Take it one day at a time, you're almost halfway there!

You are not alone – this web site is an incredible resource. Cling to God and his promises to you.

]]> By: Kristin Lux http://www.wivesoffaith.org/deployment-seasons/comment-page-1#comment-2239 Kristin Lux Fri, 26 Mar 2010 05:36:48 +0000 http://www.wivesoffaith.org/?p=1847#comment-2239 I needed this as well! I am up at 5:29am and cannot sleep and have not since my husband left 81 days ago. This is our first deployment and he hasn't even been in the military a year. I have 100 days left and I thought it was so ironic that the stages fit me to a TEE! I am in the third stage right now. We both are like once your term is up we are not reenlisting! I'm sick of skyping, phone calls, im'ing each other because in my mind my husband should be here! Not having to communicate this way! I feel like God hasn't let me rest bc I really haven't depended on him like I should and prayed like I should. I feel to weak to do anything. I know that my family and friends have us covered in prayer otherwise we wouldn't have made it this far. Just hearing his voice brings me to tears. I feel a little better after reading this and hope I can find something new to push through the next day and the next day. This is a really awesome site. I needed this as well! I am up at 5:29am and cannot sleep and have not since my husband left 81 days ago. This is our first deployment and he hasn't even been in the military a year. I have 100 days left and I thought it was so ironic that the stages fit me to a TEE! I am in the third stage right now. We both are like once your term is up we are not reenlisting! I'm sick of skyping, phone calls, im'ing each other because in my mind my husband should be here! Not having to communicate this way! I feel like God hasn't let me rest bc I really haven't depended on him like I should and prayed like I should. I feel to weak to do anything. I know that my family and friends have us covered in prayer otherwise we wouldn't have made it this far. Just hearing his voice brings me to tears. I feel a little better after reading this and hope I can find something new to push through the next day and the next day. This is a really awesome site.

]]> By: Jolene http://www.wivesoffaith.org/deployment-seasons/comment-page-1#comment-1931 Jolene Mon, 01 Feb 2010 11:52:40 +0000 http://www.wivesoffaith.org/?p=1847#comment-1931 “He gets angry once in a while, but across a lifetime there is only love. The nights of crying your eyes out give way to days of laughter.” Psalms 30:5 The Message. Thank you. This is what I needed today. How do I go along for months with only a hiccup here and there and then come to a slamming stop? This past week I have felt like I'm not going to make it to the end. We only have two months to go! I've made it this far, why do I want to give up now? I'm angry this past week. And I go to bed crying every night. And, my husband told me last night that in two months I'll be laughing about this. I didn't believe him. Not sure I do yet - but Psalms 30:5 says it all, so I guess God and hubby are right... Shannon, thanks for your honesty in this post. I'm so glad I'm not alone through this. “He gets angry once in a while, but across a lifetime there is only love. The nights of crying your eyes out give way to days of laughter.” Psalms 30:5 The Message.

Thank you. This is what I needed today. How do I go along for months with only a hiccup here and there and then come to a slamming stop? This past week I have felt like I'm not going to make it to the end. We only have two months to go! I've made it this far, why do I want to give up now? I'm angry this past week. And I go to bed crying every night. And, my husband told me last night that in two months I'll be laughing about this. I didn't believe him. Not sure I do yet – but Psalms 30:5 says it all, so I guess God and hubby are right…

Shannon, thanks for your honesty in this post. I'm so glad I'm not alone through this.

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