Little Strength
It was another Skype call followed by another set of tears. While trying to maintain some kind of resolve and a degree of composure, I felt myself breaking like the snow-laden branches outside my window. Not wanting to make things any more difficult for my spouse who is living a life of working 15 hour days, 7 days/week in a foreign, often dangerous land, I quickly hit the “End Call” button. My heart said, “Don’t let go!” while my head said, “Don’t add to his difficulty.”
Surely I was doing something wrong. Did this really have to be so hard? Why was I still having days when I just dissolved emotionally? I mean come on, I am a child of God Almighty. My husband and I have been married for 28 years. This is not the first time we have walked through deployment. For pete’s sake, I even write pieces of encouragement for military wives! What a fraud. Why was I such a failure?
I know your deeds. See, I have placed before you an open door that no
one can shut. I know that you have little strength,
yet, you have kept my word and not denied my name.
Revelation 3:8 (NIV)
Wow. God knows. He knows exactly how I am doing. I may fool the world, my friends, my children or even my spouse, but God knows my deeds. And He sees my hurt.
Wow. God has an open door for me. As I wait anxiously to develop the ability to “properly execute a deployment” (whatever that means!), God is ready and available to help me the minute I stop thrashing through the deep waters trying to do everything by myself. He makes His power readily available to me anytime I choose to walk through His always open door.
Wow. God knows that I have little strength. No matter what I expect of myself or feel like others expect of me, God is keenly aware of my condition. I have total need of His grace and mercy just to make it from one day to the next. And no matter how good a show I may put on for others, He is always aware of my limitations. They have not escaped his gaze nor caused Him to look upon me with disappointment.
When I view my current situation through the lens of God’s word, I find that I am indeed a woman of little strength. And, amazing as it may seem, that thought gives me peace. As we draw closer to the close of my spouse’s military career, I realize the day is probably not going to come when I do deployments well. So, that is my underwear hanging on the line – I am a military spouse who does not handle deployments well. Who sometimes dissolves into tears at the end of (or even during) a Skype call. A woman of little strength. But I serve a God who is strong indeed. And His word encourages me.
For when I am weak, then I am strong.
2 Corinthians 12:10b (NIV)
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This was beautiful. Deployments are hard but I think knowing that others are going through the same and have made it through helps me.Thanks for the encouragement.
I can relate and emphathize with you. We’re going through a yearlong deployment as well, 25 years-strong of marriage and 25 years of military life. This is our 3rd deplotment so I know the drill:nothing with a heavy romance theme (books, movies, songs), handling everything in the household, and being dad as well as mom. God is so gracious on this deployment; we Skype almost every day to say good morning/good night since we’re living on opposite time schedules.
I’m also frustrated with waiting; and there is a lot of waiting on this one: waiting to find out our next assignment due in July/August, waiting for our youngest to graduate HS this year, waiting to get back to working after a 7 year hiatus, and waiting to get my hubby/lover/friend back. Not easy this time around, but God is faithful to meet us at our need and some of our wants too.
Thank you so much for showing your “underwear on the line”. We have just started our 2nd deployment, the 1st with a baby. I thought I’d be a rock through this deployment since I have done 1 before, but I guess its alright if I’m not. This is my husbands career so I have really been questioning myself and if I could handle this. Just knowing that I’m not alone in handling deployments poorly is comforting. Its nice to be reminded of Gods strength by someone who really understands this. Thanks again!!!
Dear Demetria, Laura and Lauren,
Thanks for all your encouraging words. I loved hearing your stories. It is so nice to see that as we walk this deployment road there are others who understand the struggle. Thank you for sharing.
Hugs to all of you,
Bettina