Comments on: When marriage gets hard

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 12:42:43 +0000

Pattie,You make an excellent point about marriage being hard no matter who you are or what your full-time or weekend warrior job is! I certainly thought that when my hubby separated from active duty Army that life would be easier on many fronts. Life is certainly different, but I wouldn't call it easier. The challenges we have faced and trials we've walked through post-Army are still difficult. They just don't go by the title, "deployment" anymore! And you are right, there is always hope! Whether it be in marriage issues or anything else, we have hope in Christ.

By: Pattie

Pattie — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 11:00:43 +0000

Danie, thanks for commenting. I agree with what you said as well. I hope this has encouraged you and let me also encourage you! You and your husband can figure out what works for the two of you to keep your relationship strong.

By: Danie

Danie — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 09:04:50 +0000

i know you took a risk by saying what you did about marriage but i completely agree. i married my soldier (army reserves) just a month before the mobilization of his and our first deployment. in theory i knew what i was choosing but you can never truly be ready for marriage or deployment. there are just too many unknowns. i am a month and a half shy of my one year wedding anniversary and i have seen my husband forty-five days in that time of marriage. i have had many friends (married and single, newly-weds and not) ask me "how do you do it?" and all i can say is "this is the only marriage i know. i do not know what its like to wake up with my husband every morning and i never will. i have to walk the line between military and civilian life but to be honest, i don't know how my marriage is in comparison to purely civilian marriages. i just know my marriage and i believe it should be the only marriage i worry about.