Comments on: Surprise? http://www.wivesoffaith.org/surprise Connecting, Encouraging and Supporting Christian Military Wives Thu, 19 Jan 2012 12:36:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Aprille http://www.wivesoffaith.org/surprise/comment-page-1#comment-1682 Aprille Fri, 15 Jan 2010 16:20:33 +0000 http://www.wivesoffaith.org/?p=1855#comment-1682 I think it would depend on the child really...I'm not a parent but I have been a child. I LOVED surprises as a kid but my little brother actually freaked out when we threw him a surprise party...spent most of the party hiding in the woods. I think every parent needs to evaluate what would be best for each of their children and act accordingly. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer in this situation. I think it would depend on the child really…I'm not a parent but I have been a child. I LOVED surprises as a kid but my little brother actually freaked out when we threw him a surprise party…spent most of the party hiding in the woods. I think every parent needs to evaluate what would be best for each of their children and act accordingly. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer in this situation.

]]> By: Lisa http://www.wivesoffaith.org/surprise/comment-page-1#comment-1681 Lisa Fri, 15 Jan 2010 15:59:23 +0000 http://www.wivesoffaith.org/?p=1855#comment-1681 I would never put any of my kids in a position where they are publicly put on the spot at a time when their emotions will be running high. They are allowed to feel however they want when their daddy returns from a deployment, no pressure to put on a show for a big group of people--spouses have mixed feelings, and so do our kids--and that doesn't mean we haven't missed our soldier, or loved him/her, any less. I've never been a big fan of a man proposing to a gal in front of hundreds of people, either. It depends on the kid, and they sure do have different reactions to the same event. As long as the mother knew how her daughter felt and thought that she was an extrovert, then more power to her. It's up to the military family, it's up to the individual, and for goodness sakes lets not lump all people together and make sweeping statements. Any time there is high stress, whether it be good or bad, it can lead to some difficult times.  I would never put any of my kids in a position where they are publicly put on the spot at a time when their emotions will be running high. They are allowed to feel however they want when their daddy returns from a deployment, no pressure to put on a show for a big group of people–spouses have mixed feelings, and so do our kids–and that doesn't mean we haven't missed our soldier, or loved him/her, any less. I've never been a big fan of a man proposing to a gal in front of hundreds of people, either. It depends on the kid, and they sure do have different reactions to the same event. As long as the mother knew how her daughter felt and thought that she was an extrovert, then more power to her. It's up to the military family, it's up to the individual, and for goodness sakes lets not lump all people together and make sweeping statements. Any time there is high stress, whether it be good or bad, it can lead to some difficult times. 

]]> By: glenda robles http://www.wivesoffaith.org/surprise/comment-page-1#comment-1662 glenda robles Thu, 14 Jan 2010 15:18:47 +0000 http://www.wivesoffaith.org/?p=1855#comment-1662 I think that whoever these "professionals" are that say it is damaging to the child obviously never were in a military family. I can say from experience that our kids were very surpised in a good way when we pulled the "surprise" homecoming. We don't do it everytime, in fact we only did it once when he came home on leave. I think whether they know ahead of time or not, being a military child is stressful. Sometimes when they know ahead of time my kids have been apprehensive and worried about how things would play out so in those instances a surprise would have been better. As far as bringing more knowledge and awareness, I agree. I bet the teachers and other kids in that class room learned a lot that day. I am sure that they saw the raw emotion that took place and had a greater understanding for what that Father and his children had to endure being apart. I think that whoever these "professionals" are that say it is damaging to the child obviously never were in a military family. I can say from experience that our kids were very surpised in a good way when we pulled the "surprise" homecoming. We don't do it everytime, in fact we only did it once when he came home on leave. I think whether they know ahead of time or not, being a military child is stressful. Sometimes when they know ahead of time my kids have been apprehensive and worried about how things would play out so in those instances a surprise would have been better.

As far as bringing more knowledge and awareness, I agree. I bet the teachers and other kids in that class room learned a lot that day. I am sure that they saw the raw emotion that took place and had a greater understanding for what that Father and his children had to endure being apart.

]]> By: Kathryn http://www.wivesoffaith.org/surprise/comment-page-1#comment-1661 Kathryn Thu, 14 Jan 2010 14:58:25 +0000 http://www.wivesoffaith.org/?p=1855#comment-1661 I think they are wonderful, and much needed! I think they are wonderful, and much needed!

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