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Time and again

Time and again I find myself complaining.

Time and again I find myself saying, “I haven’t had time” or “I ran out of time” or most often, “I’m sorry I’m late.”

Time, time, time.

I haven’t forgotten about my time management project and series for this blog. I really haven’t! I’ve just found other things that are occupying my time more often.

Like the commute to my daughters’ schools, which is no longer a ten-minute round trip, but more like thirty in the morning and forty-five in the afternoon.  Or the nearly half-hour trip to the dance studio, one way. My husband’s refractive eye surgery and subsequent checkup appointments. Joining a Bible study at the local PWOC. Working on the ever-enlarging database of blogs and a few other projects here at Wives of Faith. Supporting my friends long-distance. Financial Peace University at a local church. Selling off much of my husband’s pastoral library a book at a time. Downsizing my own library. Writing as much as I can. Shredding old tax records and other old documents.

If you look at each thing on that list, there is not one bad thing. In fact, all of them are very good things. But combined, what I’m finding is that if I look at that list, I feel so overwhelmed I am tempted to sit on the couch and eat ice cream and watch TV, or read book after book and hide from everything.

Do you ever feel like that? I know so many of you are heavily involved in your church or base/post chapel, in PWOC, in FRGs and other family and spouse support groups. And so many of you work outside the home on top of your regular wife and mom duties. Plus, our husbands’ jobs can often impede on our schedules, can’t they?

In all the time management resources I’ve read, the feeling of overwhelmed is common. Here are four of the first practical steps we can take to get past that feeling of “I give up–let’s eat ice cream.”

  • What are your priorities, really? Obviously God, husband, children are at the top of the list. But what about everything else? We have to make time for the important things first.
  • Make a to-do list every day and stick with it. On the days I actually stick with the list I’ve made, I do pretty well with the hours I’ve been given.
  • Find your time-wasters and avoid them. Better yet, use them as motivation to get a few things done first. If you love Farmville or some other game on Facebook, make yourself finish a task or two before you play, and then set a timer for yourself so you aren’t tempted to harvest one more crop.
  • Finally, remember this verse; let it remind us all to be open to the Holy Spirit’s schedule interruptions in our days:
  • Colossians 4:5:
    Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity.

Thank you for reading, and as always, please respond in the comments if you have any ideas about time management. I love to hear from you!

I haven’t forgotten about my idea to talk about priorities and the fairy-tale idea of a balanced life.  We’ll get there. :)

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Margin and Frittering Time

I’m diligently reading and researching time management on a quest for the best information out there for all of us, but I didn’t want too much time to pass before posting again. I also found my quest derailed by a little thing I’m calling my Broken Tooth. I have a crown on a back molar, and it chipped and cracked on Monday during lunch.  So I had to make time in my research and writing schedule (such as it is) for a couple of dental visits.

The idea of “making time” for something like the dentist makes me think of Richard Swenson’s book Margin—which, if I can find, I’d like to read again. (It’s actually stored in my husband’s boxes of pro gear in the garage, but he has about 15 boxes out there. And it’s hot. And I’m choosing to spend my time writing instead of hunting down one book out of all those boxes.)

Anyway, Dr. Swenson’s premise is that we need margin (think of the margin on a typed piece of paper, that blank space surrounding the text) in our lives as a reserve of sorts, for the overflow of life events that occasionally spill over. We need some room for those times of crisis.

Thankfully, in my case, it’s not really inconveniencing anyone but me (as far as time) and my husband (as far as money) for the dentist. But what about those who work full time while their spouse is deployed? They spend all day working, and all evening taking care of the kids and the house. Where is their margin?

I also surmise that many of us find ourselves frittering away our free or unclaimed time, doing tasks that suck our time without any return on our investment.

While I grant that it’s going to be harder for some of you to figure this out, let’s work together on something practical before next week, so we can move along from there.

So here’s your assignment (if you’re so inclined to join me): Write down what you do for one day and how much time it takes. Extra credit if you do it for more than one day.

I bet we’re going to be surprised by what we find. I predict we’ll find our “time suckers.” I’ve done this exercise before, but for the purposes of this blog series, I’ll do it. (Obviously, I need it if I’m still struggling with how to manage my time!)

Next time, we’re going to talk about priorities and the fairy-tale idea of a balanced life.

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Time Management: A New Series

It’s Monday, the first day of school for my girls, and the first day of my quest to get a better handle on my time.

On a whim, I posted a question to the Wives of Faith fan page on Facebook last night: “What are your thoughts about a blog series on time management?” I was surprised to get so many responses so quickly, to be honest. I know I’m not alone in this struggle to manage my time–why else would there be so many books on the subject?–but somehow I get wrapped up in my own head and forget to look around and find some support.

We’re all about support and encouragement here at Wives of Faith, so here we go. I’ll be writing a blog series on time management, and in doing so will commit to finding as many helpful resources and tips as I can to help us all in our struggles.

Do you want to know an embarrassing secret? The thing that made me think about writing about time management was a conversation with a friend of mine who’s leading a breakout session at her church’s women’s retreat in a couple of weeks. I was talking to her about preparing for her session, and I shared with her that I’d led a breakout session once about ten years ago. “What was it about?” she asked.

Time management.

Oh, the irony.

Even back in the day I struggled with it! You’d think I’d be better by now, wouldn’t you? But that was before child #2; four moves and two hubby career changes later, here I sit in full confession mode: I can’t manage my time well.

So, welcome to my series as I learn along with you about how we can manage our time.

Let’s begin with prayer.

Lord, You have given us life, and time, and Your Word.
Please lead us and guide us as we learn how to better use the time You have given us to serve You,
for Your kingdom and Your glory. Amen.

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King of the Jungle

As I write this post, I have about twelve other things I probably “should” be doing. You know, the neverending task list that taunts from the paper upon which it’s noted, or from the back of the mind where it nags and nags and interrupts life . . . or at least, it does with me!

I was doing some dishes and remembered this older song from Steven Curtis Chapman.

Well the day has just begun and I’m already running late
With too many irons in the fire and too much on my plate
I’d be pulling out my hair if I could just get one hand free
And I’d stop this world if I could find the key

What I see is telling me I’m going crazy, but
What is real says God’s still on His throne
What I need is to remember one thing
That the Lord of the gentle breeze is Lord of the rough and tumble
And He is King of the Jungle 

He is the King. Of the rough-and-tumble of our lives, of the crazy corporate or household jungle, or of anywhere and everywhere, really. The King of Kings. Isn’t that amazing!

He can even be King of my to-do list, if I allow Him to have control and surrender it to Him.

I hope this encourages you this week–that no matter how crazy our lives get, and no matter how many irons we try to keep in the fire, or plates spinning in the air, that God is in control and He is the King of the jungle of our lives as military wives, moms, sisters, friends, women.

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I attended the Beth Moore simulcast, So Long Insecurity, on Saturday, and there are so many things I want to share! It was an amazing experience and I hope that the lessons I’m learning through the conference and in the reading of the book of the same title will stick with me and that I will be more secure in Him and be able to better serve Him.

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