I have come to the realization the past couple of weeks that when my husband gets home from Iraq, he may be lost in the changes that have happened while he’s been away. Situations occur at home, that you don’t want them to worry about and in all honesty in the 20 minute phone call you get every two weeks, you don’t want to spend it talking about the negative or sad things going on at home. I have to wonder is this a bad thing, because it has begin to make me feel somewhat disconnected from him. I am on my side of the world dealing with family issues, that he really has no clear picture on because I haven’t gone into great detail. I write my husband letters everyday but even in the letters I don’t want to include unfortunate things that are happening at home. How can we let our husbands know what’s going on at home without bringing them down and not letting us feel disconnected from them?
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I'd like to know, because I did not do well with this when my husband was deployed!
Pattie
I think we need to tell them what is going on. Fill them in. BUT edit it a little. Let them know everything is fine and taken care of. And you are fine. But they feel a disconnect as well if we don't tell them what is going on. Most of them anyway. I remember once I had an argument with my husband and told him I was sorry I was just stressed and had a lot going on. He said he couldn't help if I didn't tell him what was happening. I think they as well NEED to know some things so they don't feel left out either. and so they know that they are still a part of our life and it is not going on without them.
Nicci Hutson