While I love the characters, the storylines are getting a bit ridiculous. And old. How many infidelity plots do we need in two seasons? And what in the world were the writers thinking when they had another military wife coming on to Pamela?
The sad thing is I actually saw that coming. I had been reading through some forums on another military wife site the other day, and women were actually discussing this very thing – that some husbands are ok, and the wives are ok, if the wives find “companionship” with other women while their husbands are deployed. And we’re not talking lunch and shopping!
So what do we do about this? Do we boycott Army Wives? Do we write the producers and tell them to quit going down this road? We could. Or we could use it for what it is – a really telling reminder of what the world sees as right and “ok” and “no big deal.”
Deployment can bring out the worst in people – or it can bring out the best. It can have an incredible effect of bringing a couple closer together despite being so far apart – or it can do serious damage on a relationship. Deployment can make you as an individual much much stronger, or it can tear you up and rip you apart.
We were talking about dealing with deployment at our WoF chapter meeting last night and the thing that kept coming up the most was prayer. Something happens when you spend time in prayer, when you work on that relationship with God, when you and your husband take the time and make the effort to pray together – whether in person or on the phone, or even sharing prayers back and forth in email. Prayer draws us closer to each other and closer to God.
Ever since she spoke to us in May, I have heard several wives bring up the triangle that Carol McGlothlin talked about when she was sharing with us about military marriages. The same thing happened last night – a couple of wives talked about that image of the triangle, and that it’s only as each of us move closer to God that we can move closer together as a couple.
So, what are some ways you have found helps you grow your faith during deployment? Is it harder than non-deployment times? Easier? How do you work to keep your spiritual intimacy at a couple from deteriorating or becoming stagnant? We’ll talk more about that tomorrow so chime in today and get the discussion rolling!
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For me, my relationship with God as grown in new and exciting directions. I have a real closeness with God now, that I have never experienced. As with keeping our spiritual intimacy as a couple from deteriorating, I have started sending the sermon notes from church to my husband. I include a letter that discusses the service and what I got from the scriptures and what the pastor said. Then when my husband and I talk we can discuss what he got and learned from the sermon notes. It's nice because we are discussing how our walks are growing closer to God and what we are learning about our relationship with each other and God during this deployment.
Kristi Reid
I just want to say I've been totally disappointed with Army Wives. When my husband sees me watching it he asks that I turn it off because it's so ridiculous. Well, now that it's had the twist you are referring to, I've totally quit watching it. It is true, I've heard about people asking if being with another women is really an affair. Any way you look at it, giving any part of your heart to another is an affair. Another thing, from most women I've talked to, and from my own experience thus far here at this post, the doors are shut and very few people make it outside to befriend others. My husband says he thinks the war has taken that sort of toll on people. I've been asking the Lord to show me how to reach out and change that here. Also, watching the first season of Army Wives before we PCS'd here set me up for disappointment. I wonder if others feel the same way. About the questions asked, I love the connection I feel to my husband from reading letters (old deployments) and emails. There's just something about seeing how he feels in written form. I kept all his letters and he did the same with mine, and sometimes we still go back and read them. Sending prayers written out, not just saying you are praying for them, is a wonderful way to strengthen your marriage as well. The triangle was used in our marriage counseling almost 22 years ago and we think about it all the time. It's so true! Great post!
Laura
I have watched Army Wives once, when it forst started and I have never liked it. For me it was a disappointment, maybe even a dream killer…for lack of better words. I have a high esteem for the Active Duty wife and in my mind I feel that they are very bonded to one another in a good way. I didn't feel like the show portrayed that.Needless to say, I do not watch Army Wives.
Shauna